Condolence & Memory Journal

Condolences to Chuck, Connie, Caitlin, Sarah, Rebecca, and family,. So sorry for the loss of your son, brother and husband, Patrick.

Posted by Gerry Hanan - Austin, TX - Family   February 19, 2019

Dear Kristen and Family,
I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family will all be in my thoughts and prayers.

Posted by Katherine Holt - Lenox, MA   February 16, 2019

Dear Kristen and family... We are sad for your loss, it seems that to have known Patrick was a great blessing for so many. We hope you find comfort in each other and your large circle of friends and feel the ongoing effect of his truly good nature.
Kim and Jim

Posted by Kim and Jim Saul + Schantz - Stockbridge, MA - Friend   February 15, 2019

I will always remember Patrick the Storyteller, one of the kindest people I have ever met.

Posted by Lauren McGillicuddy - Malden, MA - Friend   February 14, 2019

Dear Chuck, Connie, Caitlin and family,
My deepest condolences for your loss. May you all find peace in his memory.
With love, Teresa LaBanca Fuhr

Posted by Teresa Fuhr - Amherst, NY - Friend   February 14, 2019

Dear Kristin and family,
My heart aches for all of you. I have such sweet memories of our children playing together...especially Patrick and Jacy; both of them kind, gentle souls full of curiosity and always interested in sharing their new discoveries. Patrick knew more about dinosaurs at 6 than most adults ever will. And those wonderful days with the kids in Vinalhaven walking the fields, climbing trees and gathering little treasures on the rocky lovely. I wish I could be at the celebration of his life to hear more about his life these past years...but I do celebrate the fact that my family was fortunate enough to have known him and his wonderful family. I'm so glad I did have the opportunity to meet was obvious that they cared very much for each other. You are all in my heart and my, Cissy

Posted by Cecelia Henderson Henderson - Naples, FL - Family Friend   February 13, 2019

Dearest Kristen and family,
The loss of Patrick must be overwhelming and devastating and we are so sorry for you. Looking at his picture he must have been a kind and gentle soul. We hold you in our hearts Kristen, sending you and your family our love and blessings.

Posted by Janet & Peter Bremers - Einighausen, AZ - Friend   February 12, 2019

This note is a virtual hug. I wish I could do more. Kristen, my thoughts are with you and your family.

Posted by Lisabeth Sterling - SHORELINE, WA - Family Friend   February 11, 2019


Patrick has taught, shared, expressed love, and shown his loves to all ages. A beautiful, compassionate man without hesitation. He touched so many of us, with his words, thoughts and especially you (Rebecca). We are only so lucky to have met such an inspirational knowledgable man, who not only helped us look at the world differently, though to reach further than from we thought we could. Thank you, Patrick, for teaching me one moment at a time and that it is okay to just be and that nothing is to fare too reach for.

Posted by Christine - Montreal, Canada - Family Friend   February 11, 2019

Dear Chuck and family,We are so sorry to hear about your son Patrick. There are no words that can heal your pain but know we are here if needed. Your friends John Gagnon and Family.

Posted by A friend   February 11, 2019

Chuck, I am so saddened to hear of your recent loss. My heart goes out to you and your family. I never met Patrick, but just from the twinkle in his eye and the wonderful words I have just read, I know he was a very special and kind person, just like you. Hugs from your island friend.

Posted by Karen Oakes - Vinalhaven, ME - Friend   February 11, 2019

My deepest sympathy for your loss. May you find comfort in the knowing that God cares for you and will comfort and sustain your family in the days ahead. (1 Cor 1:3-4)

Posted by V R - Columbus, NC   February 11, 2019

I am so sorry for your loss. My name is Elin and I am 10 years old. I knew Patrick from a library. He was always so kind to me and patient with all my questions. I always wanted to see him there. I just found out today and I am heart broken.

Posted by Elin Chooljian - Danvers, MA   February 10, 2019

So sorry to hear that the world has lost yet another special person. Please know that the Grumbach's are holding you all "in the light"

Posted by Pamela R Grumbach Grumbach - Vinalhaven, ME   February 10, 2019

Our thoughts and condolences are with Patrick's loving wife, Beca, and all of his family and dear friends.

Posted by Art & Sue Hoover - New Durham, NH - Friend   February 10, 2019


Many live life looking to take out as much as they can. Like a Cherry Blossom in February, Patrick chose to give. A beloved king, and the wisest wizard, Patrick enriched and was enriched pouring friendship, wit, understanding, and patience. Older, wiser men complete their journey unaware of the immortal currency. Patrick lives in the multitudes her generously touched on his journey. God Bless Patrick Clapham.

Posted by Arthur Nelson - Aldie, VA - Family   February 10, 2019

To all of Patrick's family, our condolences from Cheryl & Robin. Please know that the island has it's arms around you.

Posted by Cheryl Adair - Vinalhaven, ME - Friend   February 09, 2019

I miss you already, Patrick.

Condolences and thoughts to his family & friends. Patrick might be gone but his legacy lives on.

Posted by DeDe L. - Brookline, MA - Friend   February 09, 2019

A great loss to the library and to the gaming world.

Posted by Lauren Doucette - Peabody, MA - Acquaintance   February 09, 2019

I'll never forget Patrick's kindness, intelligence and humor. He was a true, loyal friend to so many people. My heart is with Rebecca and the rest of his loving family.

Posted by Alaina Hammond - New York, NY - Friend   February 09, 2019

I heard about Patrick through Kate O'Donnell, and am sorry we never had a chance to meet. My husband Curtis L. Clapham of Lyon Mississippi, was the son of Carlos Clapham, born near Cleveland, Ohio. He met and married Mattie Teer while on a motorcycle trip to the West Coast, but never got further than Mississippi. I am sure there is some relationship, and would have liked to share notes.

Posted by Carol Clapham - Wilmington, DE - Significant Other   February 09, 2019

Chuck, Connie and family, I never met Patrick, but he sounds like he was a talented and well-loved young man. I pray for strength and peace for you all.

Posted by Rae Rachel Romano (Molly B.'s Mom) - Corona, CA - Acquaintance   February 09, 2019

There are so many things I want to say but, I find it difficult to put into words. I worked with Patrick in Brookline. We shared a love of books and games. I gave him a lot of my paints when I moved back west. Luckily, through the internet, we were able to keep in touch. I was only too happy to oblige when he asked me to write a recommendation for him when he applied for the library position ( I had been his supervisor in Brookline) He was smart, funny, and loved to learn new things. I'm just so stunned and saddened that he has left us so soon. My heart goes out to his wife and family. He was, one of us.

Posted by Richard Martinez - San Diego, CA - Friend   February 08, 2019

Patrick was a great friend and colleague. I will always remember his sense of humor and infectious smile. I am a better person for having known him. So glad I got to visit with him one last time. Deepest sympathy to his family, especially Beca. ❤

Posted by Fran Hegarty - Danvers, MA - Coworker   February 08, 2019

Thinking of you. It was so nice to be at your wedding. Beca love you.

Posted by Kristina & chad Priest - Westbrook, ME - Family Friend   February 08, 2019

May your God bless your soul on its journey to Heaven

Posted by Levi Frye - Denver, CO - Family Friend   February 08, 2019

Deepest condolences to all of Patrick's loved ones, especially Becca.

Posted by Patricia Cooke - Ridgefield, CT - Friend   February 08, 2019


Steve and I send you all our deepest heartfelt sympathies. Remember to stop by anytime for hugs and support anytime you need when you're on VH.

Posted by Pam and Steve Alley - Vinalhaven, ME - Friend   February 08, 2019

So very sorry for your loss. I remember young Patrick coming to our home on Chamberlain St to play Magic with Tom. Patrick was a quiet, kind young man with a beautiful spirit. May your loving memories help you work through your grief during this difficult time

Posted by Sue Price - East Falmouth, MA - Neighbor   February 08, 2019

I will always remember Patrick as a quiet and kind soul, a little boy with big eyes and a young man with a quirky interesting story or fact to share. His family is a family with big hearts and humor and intelligence and acceptance, he was blessed to be surrounded by them and they were blessed to share his life path - a short
Journey but filled with life and love!

Posted by Jan Soron - Gansevoort, NY - Friend   February 08, 2019


Posted by Louise walker - Saco, ME - Friend   February 08, 2019


Patrick, the kindness you showed me when I lost my parents in 2017 will never be forgotten. I was virtually a stranger to you, and you & Rebecca took the time to come to the service for both of them and support me. It meant the world to me and I'll bet you never knew what a difference that small gesture made. But from what I'm seeing in the condolences you were that kind of man, kind and compassionate, I believe that. In the short time I talked with you I could see it. Thank you again for leaving a positive mark on this world with so many. My love goes out to your family and of course your beautiful and loving wife, my friend, Rebecca. I just have no words for how sad and sorry I am for all of your loss of such a wonderful man. - Lisa Provost

Posted by Lisa Provost - Hooksett, NH - Friend   February 08, 2019